Someone tells you that you look lovely.

Or that you did a brilliant job.

Perhaps they tell you how confident you seemed in a meeting, how well you handled a difficult situation or how much they appreciate something you have done.

And what happens?

Instead …

In a nutshell: A lack of confidence is rarely about the situation in front of you. It is almost always about a belief that formed a long time ago, often without you noticing, and your unconscious mind has been protecting you by following it ever since. …

Have you ever looked at someone who seems confident and assumed they must simply know what they're doing all the time?

They seem to have the answer. They speak without hesitation. They make decisions without endlessly questioning themselves.

And then …

Have you ever found yourself doing something before you have really decided to do it?

You make a cup of tea and automatically reach for the biscuit tin.

You get into the car and reach for your vape.

Something feels uncertain and your mind immediately …